This past weekend I had the honor of assisting in The Living Course (TLC). I was a student in this course three and a half years ago, and I’ve never been the same. Before that course I was afraid of taking risks, and having a serious relationship – right afterward I signed up for Match.com and met Mike (one of the best people in my life) and I moved out of my parents house.
This was my 5th time assisting and I realized that TLC has become my anchor in life, and has helped me make the big and difficult decisions that make my life the way I want it to be. It’s only a three day course, but I’ve seen people’s lives change right before my eyes. It lets you see what you’re doing to prevent yourself from having the life you want and deserve. I made the decision to quit my job at the last course, and at this course I met someone who I want to work with in the future.
After I got back from Spain, just a week ago, I felt stuck. I kept thinking I would take time to figure out what my next job move would be before going to Spain, and then when I’d get back I could get started. But after Spain I still didn’t know what I wanted to do. I felt disappointed in myself. But I decided there’s no point in putting myself down about it because then you turn inwards and I needed to stay open and ready. So here’s a good story about staying open to opportunities:
While having dinner during the course I was sitting with a few women, and one named Amy was talking about an episode of Oprah from five years ago that she’s never been able to erase off her DVR. I told her that that show really effected me too. It was about The Challenge Day when a high school shut down for the day and did exercises to build trust, vulnerability, commonality, and forgiveness among the high school students. I loved it so much that I tried to do it with my middle school students (I was a student teacher at the time). Although they were a little too young for that work I think they still got a lot out of it. I forgot about the show, but as soon as Amy started talking about it I got almost giddy. Then she said she always wanted to do a course like that but she didn’t have any support. Before thinking I said, “I’ll help you.”
She then continued to talk about how hard it is to follow your dreams when you don’t have any help. That’s when someone else at the table said, “Didn’t you hear Tracy offer you help?” Amy paused and said no. This happens all the time. We’re so busy thinking of how hard something will be that we ignore potential help. I was guilty too. As soon as I offered my help, and she continued talking I just nodded my head and agreed with her about how hard it is to get support instead of insisting that I’ll be her support. It let me off the hook, but in reality I didn’t want to be off the hook, because this is something I believe in. So now Amy and I are making plans to bring this program to the schools in our area. Even writing this on my blog scares me because now I have to follow through. But that’s why I need to write it down, because I want to follow through. And I’m super excited!
As soon as we start to talk about what we want people want to help. And then the crucial part is to listen, because people are offering their help all the time, but we ignore it because it’s easier to complain rather than do something. Have you ignored someone’s help? Today I dare you to tell someone about something you want to do that you can’t do by yourself. I bet you anything that person will offer to help you. And do yourself a favor. Believe that their offer is genuine because it probably is.