Here’s the second half of my interview with Lisa Bourque, founder of Wild Heart Coaching. Lisa inspired many people when she quit her job as an Attorney to become a life coach. By focusing on living a more authentic, happy life she has helped others to find their own true passions as well. For more background read part 1!
What would you say to someone who is unhappy with their career right now, but can’t think of any personal passions to drive them to a new career path?
First, get really honest with yourself. How does it feel to be so unhappy? Really feel it. Don’t try to run away from the feeling or shut it out. You’re feeling this way for a reason. Get honest with yourself about what isn’t working — is it your environment? The attitudes of the people you work with? The type of work you do? What’s missing? Then, get honest with yourself about what you really want. It doesn’t have to be a job title. But think about how you would like to spend your day — what does that look like? Who do you work with? What types of things do you do? What is the impact you have on others? Starting to explore these types of questions in an honest way is an important first step. Because if you aren’t honest with yourself and try to fit into a box that doesn’t fit, it’s going to be hard to make changes.Second, notice when you do feel engaged in what you’re doing — whether in your life or in your work. If you don’t ever feel engaged, then it’s time to start trying new things! Is there something you want to do that you haven’t given yourself permission to do? Maybe it’s going to a photography exhibit, maybe it’s trying out kayaking, or taking a cooking class. Whatever is calling to you, try it! When you start following your interests and allow yourself to experiment, you will get more in touch with personal passions — those things that make you feel happy, alive, and engaged.A life coach is an expert who partners with you during that process of exploration, self-connection, deeper understanding and awareness, and conscious action toward what you want. Working with a coach helps you to move forward and deeper more quickly and with greater focus — kind of like hiring a personal trainer to get more fit versus just doing it on your own. Working with someone who’s main purpose is to help you in this way tends to yield the results you’re looking for much more efficiently!
What is a typical life coaching session like? If someone can’t afford life coaching what would you recommend?
Every coaching session is different! People have many different issues and goals that they bring to coaching, and the really great thing is that coaching can be applied to many areas of your life. The only typical thing is that you come to the call (most coaches coach over the phone) with a topic that is important to you — something you’ve been stuck in, a big question that’s been on you mind, a desire to take action that for some reason you haven’t taken yet. Then I coach you around that topic using whatever tools support your goals or agenda.Sometimes the session focuses on gaining clarity about what you really wants and what it may look like. Other times it is exploring your feeling of being stuck and brainstorming new perspectives so that you can take a different approach and move forward where you hadn’t been able to before. Other times it may be gaining a deeper awareness of what’s going on beneath the surface of everyday life so that you can see the big picture.
If you don’t know if you are ready for coaching, just start exploring. Go to a bookstore and browse the personal growth/personal development section and see what draws you in. One of my favorite books is The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron. The exercises in that book changed how I saw myself in my life. If you hear about a workshop or a class that seems interesting, take it! Journal. Even if you aren’t used to writing what’s on your mind, just go for it. Start by writing 1 page a day about anything you’ve been thinking or feeling. Write about what you’re feeling. Build up to a couple pages a day. Explore blogs that interest you and stretch you to think about your life in new ways. I write my blog at http://www.yourwildheart.com/blog.html and offer useful information, tips, and perspectives for free two times a week. Many other blogs do too — including the HeSo Project!If you think coaching could be a valuable tool to help you move toward what you want, I invite you to talk to a coach! Many coaches offer free sample sessions so that you can get a first-hand idea whether coaching is right for you – because ultimately it’s up to you to create the life you want. I found coaching to be invaluable in my journey and I continue to work with a coach to this day. I also see how coaching is of great value to my clients – knowing that makes me happy and proud to do what I do every day.
Thank you so much for sharing your insights and motivating story with us!
Lisa Bourque is a personal coach and the founder of Wild Heart Coaching. She specializes in helping people who feel lifeless at work to find their authentic path and align their personal and professional passions with confidence and choice. Visit her website at www.YourWildHeart.com.