Lessons from planning a wedding

This image shows a red wine glass.

I’ve been so busy wedding planning that I’ve little time for anything else (hence the 13 day hiatus from blogging). Until recently I’ve been really relaxed about the whole idea of the wedding, but now that it’s less than 2 months away it’s starting to get overwhelming. Things that would never have mattered to me before, like how many red wine options should our guests have, end up taking us a day of debating to decide upon. In the back of my head I know that it really doesn’t matter, and that when everything’s over and done I won’t care how many wine options there are, but in the moment of decision making everything seems so crucial.

Here’s one lesson that I’ve learned so far: Let someone else do the work!

One of the side effects of having an art background is that I think I can make anything. I really wanted to do all the floral arrangements for the wedding and make all the party gifts, create the playlists and decorate everything, but at the end of the day I had to accept that spending a little extra money to have someone else do it was far better for my sanity. It was so hard for me to hire a florist because I know I can make beautiful bouquets for a tenth of the price, but as soon as I hired someone I felt a huge relief that I would have one less thing to do. That relief was worth ten times the price ๐Ÿ™‚

As Roy Disney said, “It’s not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are.”ย I want to enjoy my big day and have fun with all my friends and family, not be busy making everything perfect. This is something I tell myself on a daily basis and it helps me with all the decisions.

Please leave a comment with any other lessons you’ve learned from your wedding (or your friend’s weddings).


  1. Something I learned is that if you don’t have a reception, you don’t get any presents! But at least you don’t end up with 20 toasters.


  2. Make your bridesmaid or best man work hard so that you don’t have to. One friend had 10 cute little kids as flowergirls and pageboys – this resulted in a mob of proud parents with cameras ruining the bride’s triumphant entry into the church. Enjoy your planning together too. Happy planning!


    1. Wow 10 kids is too much! That’s crazy. We’re not going to have any children walking down the aisle.
      Alright I’m gonna go and assign jobs to my bridesmaids right now.


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