Don’t create your own roadblocks

How often do you know what you want to do, but you make excuses for not moving forward?

I really wanted to get my Brutal First Impressions website up and running while I was excited about it. I kept thinking I needed professional photography for the website, but when I contacted the amazing woman who took my glamorous profile picture, I found out it would cost $400 and take at least eight weeks. I had no money, and I knew that if I waited eight weeks, I’d lose my momentum.

That’s when I decided F*** it. I asked my friend to take some pictures of me in the alleyway of my building. During this glamorous photo shoot, I went to put my phone down on the ground and almost placed it on a used condom (ahh the joys of city life). My camera wasn’t working so we ended up using my phone. The end result: we had so much fun, and I love the gritty, expressive, lighthearted pictures.

It’s really easy to make excuses and never do anything. Yes, I’m sure a professional photographer would have given me a higher quality product, but it wasn’t worth the risk of losing my momentum. Sometimes when you hold your standards too high, you run the risk of never getting started. Start looking at the path you want to take and decide if the roadblocks are real or if you created them yourself.

And now I must ask, please like my new Brutal First Impressions page on Facebook. And while you’re at it, please like the Heso page as well. I’m not sure if all this liking really accomplishes anything, but it does make me giddy each time  I get one 🙂


  1. Oh, this is so true! When I started by blog, I read a pile of books and scoured websites, trying to make sure I’d do it “just right.” It got to the point where I was reading so much about websites and not accomplishing a darn thing. (Sound like a roadblock???) One day, my husband said, “why don’t you just DO it?” That’s what I needed to get the ball rolling. So what if it isn’t perfect – at least you’re rolling!


    1. Thank god for frustrated husbands! My husband’s exact same response of “why don’t you just DO it?” has gotten me off my butt more than once.
      I think a lot of people forget that for the first few months any work you put online is practically invisible. Only your friends are reading your first few posts so it’s ok if you slip up along the way 🙂 It’s much easier to learn from the process than to learn from abstract ideas in a book.
      Keep on rolling!


  2. Voltaire wrote that “Perfection is the enemy of the good.” Often we wait for the perfect situation or moment to do something – when in reality that moment might never come. Work with what you have which is usually good enough. Your pics look very professional – better than a lot of professional can do. Have a great weekend. Keep on writing!


    1. My dad gave my sister a plaque with that quote on it years ago, and I didn’t know what it meant back then. Now it makes perfect sense. Thanks!


  3. I’m glad you decided to go ahead without the professional photos (these ones look pretty damned good, but that could just be you).

    I too struggle with the “all the pieces aren’t in place, yet” challenge…luckily, I balance that with impatience and so tend to push things out whether they are perfect or no. In fact, just moments ago, I blogged the first part of a something that I just finished typing. I say “a something” because I have no idea what it is, where it will go (if anywhere) or when.

    Keep pushing forward and I’ll do same! Randy


  4. They turned out great. I think people over-estimate the “highly paid professional” impact anyway. Most of us just like what we see when it’s done well– and these are done well.


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