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An Interview with Krista Giffin, Life Coach

KristaWhen I moved to New York City six years ago I lived with Krista Giffin right above Central Park. We only lived together for a short time but I still remember the great advice she gave me about dating. No wonder she’s a successful life coach now. You can check out her website, or follow her on Facebook. She is generously offering a FREE 60 minute life coaching session to the first thirty people who reach out to her! The beautiful and talented Krista is telling us about her journey. The field of life coaching seems to have exploded in the last few years. It seems like people are either really receptive or really skeptical  about it. What would you say to someone who’s skeptical of life coaching?

We all have patterns that we have created over time in order to succeed in this world. Much of it is from our childhood, where it suited us. Often a certain way of doing things is the very thing that keeps us stuck.  A life coach truly listens and reflects what they hear back to the client as well as posing dynamic questions to open up the client’s views on life.  If you’re skeptical, do your research.  Find people who have used coaches and see what they have to say, or try out different coaches. I often offer complimentary sessions as a way for people to get to know me and my coaching style.  I have been trained in ontological coaching, which is about how who you are being, affects the way things happen for you in the world.  It’s easier to grasp once you’ve tried it out.  Another great comparison is this: Many people work out on their own, but if you hire a great personal trainer, you are going to get results that much faster.  Coaching offers speed and velocity toward your dreams, but you still have to be committed to doing the work.

What got you interested in life coaching?

My step-mother passed away from cancer and I think it had to do with her stressful job, which made it harder for her to overcome her disease. We spend so much time at our jobs so they should be fulfilling. I have always been a HUGE believer in having a job you love. The important question is, “Does your job give you what you need?”  I had already been encouraging people to do what they love and to find a way to make things work for them in their lives and careers. At the same time, I was looking for a career that could blend my passion for acting with my background in teaching but could also be location independent because I’d like to see my family more often.  (They’re on the West Coast and I’m in New York).  This seemed like the perfect marriage.

Wow, you really created a career that blends your talents and gives you the lifestyle you want. Have you faced any challenges while coaching?
Getting people to believe in themselves is a challenge. Everyone has fears and doubts about themselves and their abilities, but we are far more powerful than we imagine. So much is possible, but it’s easy to shift back into our old ways of thinking and become dejected if we are not mindful. Once people understand their power they can truly create anything they want in life.  It’s a mind blower!
What is most rewarding about coaching?
Every step forward for my clients is rewarding for me. I love hearing about their lives, seeing all the different, cool, exciting things that people are doing, feeling their struggles, and recognizing we are all so similar. I love when they break through and really start to feel powerful on their own. I get so much from my clients.
Is there a particular area of life coaching that you’re drawn to?
I love working with people to get clear on what they want out of life.  Clients I’ve worked with have come to me with career issues, such as finding what they love to do or getting themselves organized and focused so they can run their businesses better. Clients have also come to me with relationship issues like getting married or getting the marriage they already have to the place where it truly supports and enriches their life.  My forte is getting people to make fun, relaxation and pleasure a priority, which helps them to achieve other things they want in life. 
In your opinion, what’s the difference between seeing a therapist and seeing a coach?

Coaching and therapy can work in conjunction with each other, but there is definitely a separation. Therapy works on healing trauma from the past.  It’s important to see a therapist and get yourself to the place that you feel well and whole. Coaching is future based. We take actions in the now with the future in mind. Occasionally we’ll look backward for a pattern, but we don’t stay there. Another great way to look at it is when you injure yourself, you may need to go to a physical therapist to heal that injury.  Once the injury is healed you can see a coach to move on to the Olympics.

What is your favorite piece of advice?
I have two. The first is meditate.  And I don’t follow it enough.  It’s very easy to become unfocused and distracted in today’s society, which leads to not listening to each other, break downs in relationships, and running around on our little hamster wheels.  It’s important to quiet our minds in some way in order to listen to our inner voice.  All of the answers are in there, but we need to slow down enough to listen.
The second is have fun!  So often we end up doing, doing, doing, work, work, work.  Take time out for yourself to have fun, play with your kids, watch a comedy, dance, spend time in nature, go on a date, get a massage, take a vacation.  These things fuel us and will make us more productive in the long-term, and just make life more enjoyable in general.  That in and of itself is worth it!
I could definitely benefit from some meditation. Thank you so much, Krista, for your wise words and your generous offer for a free 60 minute life coaching session. Anyone who would like to take Krista up on her offer should follow her on Facebook, and send her a private message.

And the winners are…

Last week I posted a review of Scrivener with a chance to win the amazing writing software. I asked readers for their best tips, and with over 50 comments, I found three general rules:

  • Write a specific amount every day whether you feel like it or not. Setting a target word count or allotted time helps keep you accountable, and writing past the point of comfort (which is a good thing).
  • Write everything down. Whether by hand, on your phone, or in your computer, when you have an idea capture it. You never know when you might be able to make something of it.
  • Writing and editing are separate activities. when you’re writing, just get all your ideas down on paper without any judgement. Take a break and then come back to the writing with a critical eye. 

And the winners are:

 

William Cooper (PC)

Matthias Sundberg (Mac)

Congratulations! Thank you to everyone who shared their great tips with us!

 

And The Winner Is…


A few days ago I posted an interview with C.B. Bryza, author of Are You My Boyfriend?. I asked readers:

Do you think it’s necessary to seek out a partner, or do you believe he/she will come to you when it’s the right time?

The winner will receive a copy of the book. I chose Dave because his comment was really touching:

I don’t think it’s necessary to search, but that the one meant for you will show up in your life at the appointed time. It may sound corny, but I fell in love with my wife the first moment we met. It was her eyes and the way they lit up when we talked, and the sweetest smile I’ve ever seen. I’m blessed all these years later because I do think I was fortunate enough to find my soul mate. Maybe they don’t really exist, but for this guy, they do :-)

Thank you to all who participated, and don’t forget you can still get your own copy using this link, or you can follow up with all the exciting book events on Facebook.

Free Giveaway: Are You My Boyfriend?


C.B. Bryza is not only the author of the endearing and hilarious new book, Are You My Boyfriend?, she’s also a member of my writing group! This book is a modern parody of the classic children’s book Are You My Mother? It’s a must-read for anyone who has sought out a genuine connection in the world. It has been a tremendous boost to the spirit of our writer’s group’s to have a published author in our midst, and I hope her journey can inspire you too!

How long did you have the idea for Are You My Boyfriend?

I thought of the idea for #AYMBF in 2006, and I wrote the book in 2012, so, I had the idea for about six years.

 What made you finally put it down on paper?

I mentioned the idea to some friends at a children’s book–themed baby shower in the spring of 2012 and got really positive feedback, so that’s when I decided to write it, but I didn’t actually put it down on paper until June, after a particularly inspiring writing group meeting.

Go writer’s group! The main character is an adorable blonde with tons of pep, quite like yourself. How biographical is the main character?

CB with AYMBF

Author with book. Photo credit: Lydia Bittner-Baird

Aw, thanks! I wasn’t thinking of myself as the main character when I wrote the book, but I definitely relate to her a lot, and we have definitely dated a lot of the same guys. And the more I get to know the character, the more I see myself in her. She’s actually something of a role model!

What have you learned from the publishing process? 

The biggest lesson I’ve learned is that even though writing is a solitary process, publishing is a team effort. And one of the most important players a writer wants on her team is an agent, aka a reliable advocate and guide.

Did you have any pleasant surprises during the process?

I didn’t expect that I would get to contribute ideas for the artwork, but I actually got to be very involved, which was exciting. Simon (the illustrator) also added some great details that took my vision to another level. He really nailed it!

And the artwork is absolutely adorable! What advice would you give an aspiring author?

Write every day. Share your work. Ask for feedback, and be willing to incorporate it. (Writing classes, in person or online, can be very helpful for all that.) Above all else, don’t give up on something you believe in.

And, lastly, do you believe in soul mates?

I do. I don’t necessarily think there is one “perfect match” per lifetime, but I absolutely believe that people come together for a purpose, and that compatibility at the soul level is a big part of that.

If you would like to win a free copy of this book, answer the question below in the comment section. I’ll be picking the winner on February 6. Of course, you can also buy your own copy by clicking on this link!

Do you think it’s necessary to seek out a partner, or do you believe he/she will come to you when it’s the right time?