goal setting

This HeSo is now 30 years old!!!

Here’s what I thought being 30 would look like over the years:

  • When I was 10, I thought I would be a veterinarian and have 4 daughters named Cornelia, Caitlin, Catrina, and Cordelia.
  • When I was 20. I thought I would be running an international non-profit and have two kids names Charley Bell, and Tristan.
  • When I was 25, I thought I would have published at least two books and have one child.


I love picturing my future and coming up with goals, but I think it’s important to constantly reevaluate my path. Here’s how I’m picturing my new 30.

  • Host more amazing writers conferences! (I’m working out the plans for the fall conference already)
  • Get a literary agent.
  • Determine what to do with Brutal First Impressions. (Is this something I want to keep doing or do I want to invest that energy into my writing and other ideas?)

And who knows, maybe this list will change tomorrow. It’s my birthday and I can do anything I want 😛

How can you not lover her???

This baby’s now 30

And the winner is…

Congratulations, Julie, I’ll be sending you the kindle version of
The Desire Map: A Guide to Creating Goals with Soul.  I hope this book helps you accomplish your dream of spreading your wings and living without fear (I’ll be sending it to you in the next week). If you haven’t checked out Julie’s awesome blog of stunning photos and beautiful insights, do it now!

I have three more giveaways planned for the upcoming months so stay tuned!


A Christmas Gift for One Lucky Reader

I’m done with all my Christmas shopping but I realized I forgot someone very special: you! In honor of New Year’s approaching, I would like to send one reader a small Christmas gift that will help with his or her New Year’s resolution.

I keep hearing great things about Danielle LaPorte’s book, The Desire Map: A Guide to Creating Goals with Soul. I haven’t read it yet, but the basic premise it that the way we set goals is all wrong; rather than making a list of what we want to receive and achieve, we should think about how we want to feel. This book helps you come up with an action plan for your best intentions.

Here’s how to win the kindle version of this book: In the comment section, let me know a goal you’ve always wanted to achieve, what you’ve done to go after it, and what has kept you from achieving it. Post this by Dec. 30 5pm EST. I’ll be choosing one comment at random. Sorry, no family members allowed (you already got your gifts 😛 )

Happy Holidays!

P.S. Let me know if you like the book so I can get my own copy.

Between Goals


My desk

When you have a lofty goal it’s crucial to set goals along the way, and then reward yourself for reaching those goals. It could take years to reach my goal of publishing my novel, In the Pride, so why should I wait that long to celebrate my hard work?

Recently I started posting my short-term goals next to my desk, and it’s a great reminder of the steps I need to take to get where I want to go. It’s also fun to keep track of the goals I have completed. Under each goal I write a reward. I’m currently on my third draft, so when I reach 100 pages (which I did this weekend!) I go out for a fancy dinner, for 200 pages I go to a writer’s conference, and for finishing this draft I will visit Idaho where a good chunk of my story takes place.

Another practice that has helped me stay motivated is logging the hours I spend writing. Sometimes it can feel like I’m working so hard with nothing to show for it, but watching the numbers accumulate is a great reminder of my commitment.

hoursspreadHope these tips can help with your goals!