Are your thoughts bringing you down without you even knowing it?
Yesterday, for the first time ever, I was able to run for three miles without stopping on any of the major hills. As I was running, I thought “wow, I’m really surprised I could do that.”
On this run, I was also thinking about how surprised I was to make a profit from the writing conference I’m organizing and hosting (Next Saturday!!!).
That’s when I realized how much I use the word surprised. Using that word subconsciously implies that:
1. I didn’t think I was capable of that action, i.e. reveals low self-regard.
2. That it was a miraculous occurrence that had nothing to do with hard work and dedication.
Why not use the word impressed instead?
I was impressed that I was able to run up hills without stopping. I was impressed that my conference is a financial success.
Using the word impressed celebrates the hard work and success and implies respect and admiration for yourself.
It’s a small tweak, but it’s worth the effort. Words have meanings beyond their definitions. They reveal what we actually think about ourselves and the world. If said enough, they can change how we feel. Gandhi said it best:
Today I challenge you to really dissect your self-talk and see if there are any words that are bringing you down. I’d love to hear which words you come up with, what you realize about them, and which word you are going to replace it with.